Friday, October 04, 2013

Nothing Ventured, Nothing Gained

Thanks so much for all of your kind words of support regarding my birth father.

I bit the bullet and wrote a letter to his oldest son, and then spent a sleepless week waiting for a reply.

Seriously, I had all kinds of horrible scenarios running through my head.  Why hasn't he responded yet?  Does he think I want money?  Maybe a kidney?

I had emphasized to him that I didn't want to intrude on his life, and that I understood if he didn't want to know me.  The information about me was his to do with what he would, and that I wouldn't be trying to contact anyone else.  All I asked for was a family medical history and maybe a picture or two of my birth father.

Also passed on what had happened to me medically in case there was a family history of it.

He wrote back to me yesterday!

He and his mother were a bit shocked and surprised at my existence, but not unpleasantly so, I don't think.  In a true act of graciousness, his mother has been in contact with my birth father's doctors and is putting together a file of information for me.  It is so much more than I dared hope for!

Turns out birth father had both of the medical conditions that I have.

Brother and I have made plans to chat for the first time on the phone this weekend.  I can't wait!

Love you guys!



Green Girl in Wisconsin said...

I am SO glad he wrote back and that you're getting some of those puzzle pieces slotted in now! Hooray!

(I bet you wrote him a lovely letter. I just do.)

Crazy Mom Tats! said...

This is great!!!

My feeling is - family is family is family, and (especially if they are helpful in ANY way) you cna't have too much family!

I hope you and your brother have a good meeting and it's the beginning of a happy relationship.

Stinky paw said...

Happy for you he wrote back and willing - that is great news, hopefully this is/will be the beginning of a great relationship

Sorry for your loss, even if you didn't get to meet him he was still your (birth) father.

Best of luck my dear!

Rootietoot said...

What wonderful news! Best wishes will all that is coming up!

Kim Ayres said...

So glad to hear this!

Wishing you the very best for how it all develops :D

Chris H said...

Fantastic News! I hope by now your meeting has happened? How did it go?

Kim Proctor-Day said...

That's great ! I am happy to hear this, history is so important, as I am learning ~hugs~

Kim Ayres said...

Just checking in - hope the meeting with your brother went well