Thanks so much for all of your kind words of support regarding my birth father.
I bit the bullet and wrote a letter to his oldest son, and then spent a sleepless week waiting for a reply.
Seriously, I had all kinds of horrible scenarios running through my head. Why hasn't he responded yet? Does he think I want money? Maybe a kidney?
I had emphasized to him that I didn't want to intrude on his life, and that I understood if he didn't want to know me. The information about me was his to do with what he would, and that I wouldn't be trying to contact anyone else. All I asked for was a family medical history and maybe a picture or two of my birth father.
Also passed on what had happened to me medically in case there was a family history of it.
He wrote back to me yesterday!
He and his mother were a bit shocked and surprised at my existence, but not unpleasantly so, I don't think. In a true act of graciousness, his mother has been in contact with my birth father's doctors and is putting together a file of information for me. It is so much more than I dared hope for!
Turns out birth father had both of the medical conditions that I have.
Brother and I have made plans to chat for the first time on the phone this weekend. I can't wait!
Love you guys!