tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post5419456177450477038..comments2024-01-18T03:34:41.899-07:00Comments on Cheaper Than Therapy: Stigma or Stigmata?Attila the Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02158308703617226652noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-65799197211356522452007-06-19T02:05:00.000-06:002007-06-19T02:05:00.000-06:00Thank you for bringing such nice posts. Your blog ...Thank you for bringing such nice posts. Your blog is always fascinating to readAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-55608202110345359252007-05-01T18:48:00.000-06:002007-05-01T18:48:00.000-06:00I've never been here before, but you can bet I'll ...I've never been here before, but you can bet I'll be back. <BR/><BR/>I love the way you cut through all the bs to what really matters, your child. I wish that all parents would realize that, both those with and without special needs kids. <BR/><BR/>When people stop believing that their children's job is to represent them to the world, and that public opinion matters, they will actually start to become the parents their kids deserve.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-77407603898429386462007-05-01T17:06:00.000-06:002007-05-01T17:06:00.000-06:00I find myself defending my son's right to be autis...I find myself defending my son's right to be autistic fairly often, even to someone who really should know better. Today my son, Duncan, was playing in our back garden and he was shouting out, a bit screechy. Sometimes he was screechy and happy and sometimes he was a bit frustrated for a moment or two, before he sorted himself out. He also sang loads of Disney songs and recited loads of lines from films as he scooted up and down. I was told (by he who should know better) that I need to teach Duncan not be so loud, that his shouting was wrong. He was a bit embarassed and worried about the neighbours. Well, I'd just been reading the BADD posts before this and went off about how it was Duncan's RIGHT to shout in his own garden, it's one of the ways he vocalises, since he is AUTISTIC! <BR/><BR/>I'm going to swing my bat too!<BR/>And I think ABFH is terrific too.Sharon McDaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13550156204691696968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-19573578866791111012007-04-27T20:28:00.000-06:002007-04-27T20:28:00.000-06:00Amen, Ma'am. You said it perfectly.Amen, Ma'am. You said it perfectly.Ambulance Driverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10175419709184526342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-23113113905227031902007-04-27T17:46:00.000-06:002007-04-27T17:46:00.000-06:00Yes, Attila. Beat that breast-plate.Parents have t...Yes, Attila. Beat that breast-plate.<BR/><BR/>Parents have their own needs when dealing with a child with special needs, but ultimately, it's not about them, the relatives, the neighbors, or anyone else. It's about the child. Hooray for you!Ruth Dynamitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06161626814106717754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-12991396137592928092007-04-26T23:17:00.000-06:002007-04-26T23:17:00.000-06:00Wow...what a powerful post.....powerful!Wow...<BR/>what a powerful post.....<BR/><BR/>powerful!Terri@SteelMagnoliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11784173081245407124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-92141685884992586642007-04-26T23:12:00.000-06:002007-04-26T23:12:00.000-06:00I'm speechless... Thanks for writing all this...I'm speechless... Thanks for writing all this...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-76470353985775033972007-04-26T20:21:00.000-06:002007-04-26T20:21:00.000-06:00Attila, keep on beating that breastplate of yours....Attila, keep on beating that breastplate of yours. You are generally right on.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13054205963916941320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-56594039924951894742007-04-26T16:24:00.000-06:002007-04-26T16:24:00.000-06:00I love you. I mean it, I really really REALLY love...I love you. <BR/>I mean it, I really really REALLY love you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-77901554909633337272007-04-25T10:27:00.000-06:002007-04-25T10:27:00.000-06:00Absolutely wonderful post! May I use it in my trai...Absolutely wonderful post! May I use it in my training?<BR/>I facilitate a training for staff...<BR/>To make them understand behavior and individuals with diagnosis...To get them to let that guard down of all they were taught and leave it at the door, before they come in and work for individuals with disablities.<BR/>We, here at my work, have developed many support groups and we just recently had our first for Parents with CHildren dx with Autism and all the spectrums thereof.<BR/><BR/>I have been searching for parents and their stories, their take on the issue to include in my training.<BR/><BR/>This is for real..Let me know!<BR/>Peace<BR/>JodiJod{i}https://www.blogger.com/profile/02671216315312938126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-68162455983152741812007-04-25T09:30:00.000-06:002007-04-25T09:30:00.000-06:00i really appreciate your post, and have enjoyed re...i really appreciate your post, and have enjoyed reading about your journeys, sometimes serious, sometimes a ton of fun over the past year.<BR/><BR/>this is a fantastic post and i appreciate your heart.RChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11340006144797496514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-22975229185006655272007-04-24T14:02:00.000-06:002007-04-24T14:02:00.000-06:00Atilla-I intended to respond in the typical fashio...Atilla-<BR/><BR/>I intended to respond in the typical fashion but my reply quickly became too long for the comment section. You can read it <A HREF="http://mstanefski.blogspot.com/2007/04/whose-stigma-is-it-anyway.html" REL="nofollow">here</A> if you wish.<BR/><BR/>SvenSvenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04106330081401871456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-4330520373852392352007-04-24T01:41:00.000-06:002007-04-24T01:41:00.000-06:00Well that one caught me off guard! When you wrote ...Well that one caught me off guard! When you wrote of Stigma, I thought I knew exactly where you were coming from. Having children with special needs means we become hyper aware of how people will try and put our child in a box and limit their growth and sense of identity.<BR/><BR/>Maybe this is odd to say after 9 years, but it has never occured to me that there would be a stigma about being a parent. This is as bizarre to me a saying there's a stigma attached to liking the colour blue.<BR/><BR/>WTF indeed!<BR/><BR/>The only thing I've ever felt I needed to combat as a parent was the attitude of other people to my daughter.<BR/><BR/>Wow.<BR/><BR/>I have discovered a whole new world of shallowness I didn't realise existed.Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-45194681793767104202007-04-23T16:36:00.000-06:002007-04-23T16:36:00.000-06:00I love your story and your attitude. I was lucky ...I love your story and your attitude. I was lucky enough when I was married before to be a step mother to an amazing little guy with autism. He was mute for the most part, he only said hello and good bye. I had no idea your son was autistic, I know it is challenging, but it is also beautiful and I love your outlook on it.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for the lovely gifts, you are truly a lovely woman!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08878569780988628624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-19936749023960957732007-04-23T15:17:00.000-06:002007-04-23T15:17:00.000-06:00Hey ATM- Great post. And thanks for letting us kno...Hey ATM- Great post. And thanks for letting us know about yet another icky org that shames everyone involved. Yes,I am here.. just quiet.- KrishannaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11620437311306362981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-12425191589132763982007-04-22T21:02:00.000-06:002007-04-22T21:02:00.000-06:00Hi Attila, thanks for the kind words! Actually I'...Hi Attila, thanks for the kind words! Actually I'm not that young. I recently had to surrender to the overwhelming force of gravity and buy summer tops with built-in shelf bras. Sadly, I have outgrown the braless look. Or outdrooped it. Whatever. Anyway, I'm not going to pay anyone to implant water balloons on my chest for the sake of fashion.<BR/><BR/>On the Holland essay: Yes, it does a good job of getting parents off the pity pot and making the point that social expectations aren't everything. I'd say that the author was too passive in accepting the social constraints she describes, but then again, the essay probably wouldn't have reached as many people if it had taken a more radical tone.<BR/><BR/>Here's a link to a response to that essay, <A HREF="http://www.angelfire.com/in4/farewelltoholland" REL="nofollow">Farewell to Holland</A>, written from the neurodiversity point of view.<BR/><BR/>I hope your brother's eye is getting better. (Too bad your brother's girlfriend didn't beat up the punk AND his worthless mama!)abfhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01228622726560993968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-23752782052893404842007-04-22T19:52:00.000-06:002007-04-22T19:52:00.000-06:00What a wonderful post. I'm so glad you wrote it a...What a wonderful post. I'm so glad you wrote it and shared it. I think he is lucky to have you for his mom.OhTheJoyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05031731198115388411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-26933992973896438502007-04-22T13:19:00.000-06:002007-04-22T13:19:00.000-06:00Wow! Can I be your kid, too?Wow! Can I be your kid, too?Rootietoothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06804816032287310463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-89151003616168068082007-04-22T12:34:00.000-06:002007-04-22T12:34:00.000-06:00Thank you for writing thisThank you for writing thisimfunnytoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12942406430628029505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-87995900596206641342007-04-22T08:48:00.000-06:002007-04-22T08:48:00.000-06:00Amazingly insightful post....it is one of the best...Amazingly insightful post....it is one of the best demonstrations of a parent's responsibility that I have read.<BR/><BR/>It is so easy to get caught up in how everything affects you.....it's nice to see that you really understand what is important!<BR/><BR/>Your son is lucky to have you as a mom!Queen of the Mayhemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10317309061471274358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-40852420893346188092007-04-21T23:57:00.000-06:002007-04-21T23:57:00.000-06:00What a beautiful post. So glad I 'met' you in the...What a beautiful post. So glad I 'met' you in the blogosphere. You impress me, darlin. <BR/>xoxoxoyerdoingitwronghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03201952272782575607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-75369854041844699472007-04-21T23:36:00.000-06:002007-04-21T23:36:00.000-06:00You are awesome :) *biggest hugs ever*You are awesome :) *biggest hugs ever*ditzymoihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13083490079089729743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-86773469287289887782007-04-21T19:03:00.000-06:002007-04-21T19:03:00.000-06:00Exactly!!!! you are his mom!!! And you and he will...Exactly!!!! you are his mom!!! And you and he will grow and triumph.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-6949418393215496472007-04-21T19:01:00.000-06:002007-04-21T19:01:00.000-06:00Also proud to know you.You rock!Also proud to know you.<BR/><BR/>You rock!elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09384756673501569994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-73717769114567263042007-04-21T17:48:00.000-06:002007-04-21T17:48:00.000-06:00Well said, Attila. I've always wondered about sup...Well said, Attila. I've always wondered about support groups designed to help people cope with whatever stigma is associated with behaviours, choices, affictions, etc. All this time, I thought coping with what are essentially other people's erroneous assumptions, parochial attitudes, or simple misinformation and shitheaded ignorance was to ignore them and carry on with your life. <BR/><BR/>I applaud your realism and level-headed sense of accountability, and I admire your ability to approach what is a very challenging life with equanimity, humour, compassion, and love. <BR/><BR/>You're seriously a star.Special Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00994750661725734469noreply@blogger.com