tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post1143180059466386035..comments2024-01-18T03:34:41.899-07:00Comments on Cheaper Than Therapy: A Different Kind of AnniversaryAttila the Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02158308703617226652noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-47532752685103798822007-03-18T06:34:00.000-06:002007-03-18T06:34:00.000-06:00Happy Anniversary to you and your mother...This wi...Happy Anniversary to you and your mother...<BR/><BR/>This will be a post to follow me today and I will have it nestled in my heart..Well told, Attila..<BR/>Thank you for sharing it...Pendullumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11833881250780345533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-35401023583318317882007-03-17T12:28:00.000-06:002007-03-17T12:28:00.000-06:00Indeed. It blows my mind that in this day and age ...Indeed. <BR/><BR/>It blows my mind that in this day and age we still have to explain why we would want to know who gave birth to us. sigh....<BR/><BR/>Anyhooo<BR/><BR/>Happy Happy Day!!!!!! Much love to your mothers who both got it. You deserve the love my friend.<BR/>xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-41275094772295069482007-03-17T07:40:00.000-06:002007-03-17T07:40:00.000-06:00What more can be said. You said it so well. We are...What more can be said. You said it so well. We are all happy for you and your family....such a wonderful story!Doughnuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00100398955132921465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-63082089835828875682007-03-16T12:39:00.000-06:002007-03-16T12:39:00.000-06:00Okay, yours is the third post that has made me cry...Okay, yours is the third post that has made me cry today! I just LOVE you! You are such an honest and amazing woman! <BR/><BR/>It is interesting that you mentioned the "blank slate" babies....I am reading The Strong Willed Child by James Dobson and he refutes that very theory. <BR/><BR/>As a mom, I am sure you noticed a difference between your children immediately. You simply cannot escape from where you come. Whether it is emotionally, or even your genetic makeup!<BR/><BR/>GREAT POST!Queen of the Mayhemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10317309061471274358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-62314413824349228692007-03-16T10:17:00.000-06:002007-03-16T10:17:00.000-06:00Very beautiful! Happy Special Anniversary to you ...Very beautiful! Happy Special Anniversary to you and your mother!Undercover Angel https://www.blogger.com/profile/06995794675832418220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-22431200868454675162007-03-16T08:52:00.000-06:002007-03-16T08:52:00.000-06:00Beautiful. I am so glad your quest to meet the wo...Beautiful. I am so glad your quest to meet the woman who gave you life has such a happy story. My cousins were not so lucky in there search. You are truly blessed in having not 1 loving mother but 2!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08878569780988628624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-49617559494406498272007-03-16T07:41:00.000-06:002007-03-16T07:41:00.000-06:00Good job explaining for the uninitiated what it fe...Good job explaining for the uninitiated what it feels like. I'm glad that meeting your mother worked out as well as it did. I work with a lot of people who are adopted (and a few whose fathers were just "donors") and it raises many issues that I don't often have wise answers for.<BR/>Happy Anniversary.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13054205963916941320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-9578805491860518942007-03-16T07:08:00.000-06:002007-03-16T07:08:00.000-06:00Attila, I remember when you finally found your mot...Attila, <BR/>I remember when you finally found your mother---I can't believe it's been 5 years already!<BR/><BR/>As an adoptive mom, it's very hard to look at the medical history form that April's birth mother filled out before relinquishment, because she checked "no" on every line for medical conditions other than high blood pressure. She never really had any medical care, so who knows what's lurking in there. <BR/><BR/>But April knows she started out somewhere other than here. She knows she lived in a group home for a short time, and that her mother loved her without question and without limits. She knows her mother had a very hard time and couldn't take care of her. She knows she had a different mommy before me. She is four years old, so she doesn't yet know she was born addicted to meth, or that her first mother continues to struggle with drugs and alcohol, or that her older sister is a 15 year old meth addict. <BR/><BR/>What she does know is that her first mother tried very hard to be a good mommy. Some day she'll know the rest. We keep pictures of her in April's scrap book. She knows her name and the names of her siblings. We just take it a little at a time.<BR/><BR/>Happy Anniversary--I'm so glad you have found her, and that she is such a friend to you. I cannot imagine not knowing my history for so long. It may seem like a little thing to some people, but I know that to adoptees, it is the world.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17691876103706372760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-4741049133102741052007-03-16T06:08:00.000-06:002007-03-16T06:08:00.000-06:00That was a very moving post Attila. Happy annivers...That was a very moving post Attila. Happy anniversary :)Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-46929891038486597972007-03-16T04:00:00.000-06:002007-03-16T04:00:00.000-06:00Thanks for the morning cry, biyotch!And Happy Anni...Thanks for the morning cry, biyotch!<BR/><BR/>And Happy Anniversary to you and your mom, too!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-91033190251314891952007-03-16T00:32:00.000-06:002007-03-16T00:32:00.000-06:00Happy Anniversary!Happy Anniversary!elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09384756673501569994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-31786256284700838642007-03-15T22:22:00.000-06:002007-03-15T22:22:00.000-06:00That's a great story. A college girlfriend was ado...That's a great story. A college girlfriend was adopted, and she looked for her parents, which I think is perfectly understandable regardless of whether there are any genetic issues. As I recall, she just wanted to know who she was.<BR/><BR/>Still, I'm a little stunned that the agency didn't try to alert you regarding the genetic issues.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02737980462115396236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-65917082716673678632007-03-15T22:09:00.000-06:002007-03-15T22:09:00.000-06:00Wow! You're amazing! That was an excellent post. ...Wow! You're amazing! That was an excellent post. So interesting to hear your perspective. I'm glad I got to read it.Flawed And Disorderlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05791066979654306150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-39427008153524444982007-03-15T20:58:00.000-06:002007-03-15T20:58:00.000-06:00How lucky you are to have found that part of you t...How lucky you are to have found that part of you that was missing! This was the sweetest, most honest post I've ever read.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16299205162628367889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-87415011258172373362007-03-15T20:41:00.000-06:002007-03-15T20:41:00.000-06:00Hey there Atilla..congrats on 5 years...congrats m...Hey there Atilla..congrats on 5 years...congrats more on being raised by wonderful people that truly love you. People who were able to see all the "truth" of who you are and who you would become by keeping your world open to all sides of adoption.<BR/><BR/>I was touched very deeply by your post. I wish there were more people in the world like your mom adopting kids. <BR/><BR/>Your parents have not only told you about compassion and understanding while you were growing up they have lead you by example.<BR/><BR/>I am not good at expressing myself and my feelings on things like this but .............I am really happy to know what you have written. Think of how many people have benefited from her selfless loving choices in allowing you to be yourself inside and out, and by accepting your birth mom as an equal ...Is freaking HUGE. <BR/><BR/>Tell your mom...that I want to tell her ...Thank you.....what a great lady.<BR/>There are those of us that have never known TRUE motherly love I like to think that I am doing all that I can with my children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-43211076551879552562007-03-15T20:05:00.000-06:002007-03-15T20:05:00.000-06:00What an awesome story...thanks for sharing it with...What an awesome story...thanks for sharing it with us....and happy anniversary to you and your mother...:)<BR/><BR/>About 5 years ago a good friend of mine found his birth mother and the whole process has been a wonderful, positive one for him and an awe inspiring one for me...I am happy that both your experiences have been good ones...it is humbling for sure....makes me emotional just thinking about it.<BR/><BR/>Warm hugs to you.......:)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17550447869126196553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-61192453424333545292007-03-15T19:43:00.000-06:002007-03-15T19:43:00.000-06:00Happy anniversary darling. Thats such a sweet stor...Happy anniversary darling. Thats such a sweet story about your mom making room for your mother...carmachuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06037584604296331790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-90707225572667200962007-03-15T19:41:00.000-06:002007-03-15T19:41:00.000-06:00So beautiful, Attila. Your story warmed my heart -...So beautiful, Attila. Your story warmed my heart - thank you for sharing.Ruth Dynamitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06161626814106717754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-71917325362822672392007-03-15T18:37:00.000-06:002007-03-15T18:37:00.000-06:00That was such an amazing entry!That was such an amazing entry!Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03999167751789368758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-46893247274493155892007-03-15T15:50:00.000-06:002007-03-15T15:50:00.000-06:00Hi Attila,Happy Anniversary to you and your Mother...Hi Attila,<BR/>Happy Anniversary to you and your Mother! Your post is inspiring, informative, and very positive on the entire adoption process. I only wish my Father were alive to read your words. <BR/><BR/>My Dad was not told he was an adopted child until he enlisted in the Coast Guard at the beginning of World War II and had to have his birth certificate. He was 22 years old. When he confronted this “mother” about this, she said she’d told him when he was small and he “must have forgotten”. When he inquired about obtaining any pertinent facts about his real parents, he was told the orphanage had burned to the ground soon after they’d taken him in, which was a falsehood.<BR/><BR/>He never had a solid relationship with either of his “parents” after this and consequently I never got to know one set of grandparents, even though we lived within 5-miles of one another. I think this need to “hide” the adoption from the world was more prevalent in the 1920’s than it is today, but I’ve always thought that he should have been told the truth as soon as he was old enough to comprehend it. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for a wonderful post.Litzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15797830477221024642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-13944975757161549872007-03-15T14:03:00.000-06:002007-03-15T14:03:00.000-06:00Nice tribute and I'm sure your mom and mother must...Nice tribute and I'm sure your mom and mother must both be very proud of their daughter! ...and they should be! Big hugs yo you on this fine day!stinkypawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04418558395508830375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-62664247996970972007-03-15T13:16:00.000-06:002007-03-15T13:16:00.000-06:00Wow. What a great tribute!Wow. What a great tribute!OhTheJoyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05031731198115388411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-36254879367070421502007-03-15T12:32:00.000-06:002007-03-15T12:32:00.000-06:00Happy Anniversary Attila and thanks for sharing. *...Happy Anniversary Attila and thanks for sharing. <BR/>*hugs*Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05347165192759448232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-44901889697417848892007-03-15T10:56:00.000-06:002007-03-15T10:56:00.000-06:00What a wonderful tribute to both your mothers...What a wonderful tribute to both your mothers...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21447266.post-7000826792514895212007-03-15T10:50:00.000-06:002007-03-15T10:50:00.000-06:00Adding the statement that my first sentence was in...Adding the statement that my first sentence was intended to read as an agreement, not a slur; see? I need to stay off the Internet until I can write something without having to clarify it. Jeez.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07332126804455557046noreply@blogger.com